Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, and occurs within all age ranges, ethnic backgrounds and economic levels. Domestic violence can be described as a pattern of abusive behavior to gain or maintain power and control over another person through fear and imitation.
Emotional abuse is also a form of domestic abuse where threats, insults, constant monitoring or “checking in,” excessive texting, humiliation, intimidation, isolation or stalking is exhibited in the relationship.
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Spiritual
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Psychological
Domestic violence often occurs in cycles, with periods of normalcy followed by increased tension and abuse. This cycle of violence repeats, sometimes over a period of months, or within the same day.
Anyone can be a leader against domestic violence. Learn the warning signs of abuse so you can recognize them when you see them.
General Warning Signs of Domestic Abuse
- Seem afraid or anxious to please their partner
- Go along with everything their partner says and does
- Check in often with their partner to report where they are and what they’re doing
- Receive frequent, harassing phone calls from their partner
- Talk about their partner’s temper, jealousy, or possessiveness
- Be restricted from seeing family and friends
- Rarely go out in public without their partner
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Have limited access to money, credit cards, or the car
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Act excessively jealous and possessive?
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Hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?
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Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
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Force you to have sex?
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Control where you go or what to do?
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Keep you from seeing your friends or family?
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Constantly check on you?
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Limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
- Create a safety plan. A safety plan is a personalized, practical plan that includes ways to remain safe while in a relationship, planning to leave, or after you leave.
- Contact or walk-in to the Center for Student Development to meet with a counselor and receive resource information.
- Utilize available resources. For advice and support, the following hotlines are available:
- National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
- Houston Area Women’s Center Hotline 713-528-2121
- Bay Area Turning Point Hotline 281-286-2525
- The Bridge Over Troubled Water Hotline 713-473-2801
- If you need immediate assistance, call 911 or your local emergency service.
What Should I Do If Someone I Know is Being Abused?
- If someone is in immediate danger, call 911 or contact local emergency services.
- Speak out. Let the individual know it is NOT their fault and they are NOT alone. Everyone deserves to be treated with love and respect.
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Break the silence.
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Encourage them to seek help by contacting a support hotline, local advocacy center or meet with a counselor for confidential support services.
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Learn about the issues. You may contact a support hotline and find out other ways to help and support the mission to end violence.